Benjamin Franklin famously once said that “God helps those who help themselves.” In a survey conducted some years ago asking people what their favorite Bible verse was Franklin’s quote was number one. People were genuinely surprised to find out that it was not a verse from the Bible.
While it may not be a verse found in the Scriptures, it certainly is a firmly held cultural belief. Besides, it just sounds right that God would help those who help themselves. The problem with having God helps those who help themselves as a family held belief is that we won’t seek advice from other people when we need it. We are conditioned to help ourselves. We try to go it alone.
There are two issues with trying to go it alone. The Bible says that those who seek advice will be counted amongst the wise, so the opposite has to be true if you do not seek advice you’re not wise. The second problem is that it models for our children that they should not seek help when they need it, when what we want for them is that they will seek help when they are struggling.
Surround yourself with people who are a little further down the road that you are traveling. Get into communities with others who know what you’re going through. If you’re going to seek advice from others then you need to surround yourself with people who can speak into your life. Allow them the freedom to offer advice and correction; be vulnerable and in the end you will be counted amongst the wise.
Lord, I confess that I don’t want to seek advice. I don’t want people to know the mess that I have made. I don’t want people to see things the way they really are. I want people to think that I have it all together. But I want to be vulnerable. I want to seek counsel. I want to model these things for my children. Please give me the courage to be the person you want me to be.
In Jesus name, Amen
“Listen to advice and accept discipline, and at the end you will be counted among the wise.” – Proverbs 19:20 (NIV)
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