Break on Through to the Other Side

Self-care should be a vital part of everyone's routine, but it is too frequently overlooked. Maybe it's because it sounds selfish, but you cannot parent your kids well if you are constantly stressed. I was recently invited to speak to a group of Child Protective Services case workers in Houston on the topic of secondary traumatic [...]

Ignorance and Malice Are Not the Same Thing

One of the things that we truly believe is that people thrive in community. You simply cannot thrive in isolation, and a key ingredient in what adoptive and foster families need to thrive is to be connected to a healthy church ministry that understands them and will support them as they travel their adoption and [...]

Establishing Healthy Boundaries

I recently presented at a conference for adoptive and foster parents. My assigned topic; Building Healthy Relationships and Boundaries with Your Biological Relatives. I was excited when the topic was first assigned to me. There are many books on the subject of boundaries, so preparation should have been easy, except that I couldn’t find many on [...]

Climbing into the Car

An essential component of being a connected parent is coming to terms with our histories and doing the hard work necessary to make sense of the past. Our stuff can't get in the way of us being the people our kids need us to be. We can't be fully present if there are things from back [...]

Common Logical Fallacies

My 14-year-old son is studying formal logic and I am loving watching him learn and discussing it with him. The following are descriptions and examples of 10 common logical fallacies. Understanding them can be very helpful. Ad Hominem: This occurs when an author attacks his opponent instead of his opponent’s argument. Example: Trina thinks guns [...]